10-years - is it a long time or is it a short time or is it exactly as long time as it should be? That is a good questions. I believe it depends a lot of situations.
It can be long time, when you missing someone as in my case it is. It is exactly that many years, since my beloved mother passed away. It has not been easy time for me, since I can't go and talk with her on eye to eye, even if I would want it. I can never ask advice or just tell her how happy I am or how sad I am.
It can be exactly as long time as it should be. In my mothers case I believe it is right, since she did not had to suffer longer with her sickness. When people ask, why she died and I answer that she had diabetes, when I am quite surprised that people believes that , if diabetic person gets insulin, when person should be alive. The problem is, that all the complication what comes with sickness, is what makes that person dies one day.
it can be short time. In my mothers case, she did not see her first grandson. For him, it has been short time yet to be in this world and hopefully he will have a lot of decades in front of him. My mother passed away just 2 months and 2 days before her first grandson was born.
All in all, I am both happy and sad that I have lost my mother. Now would many say that I must be crazy, but I am not that. I am happy that she does not have to suffer anymore. At take so many times insulin in a day and still feel pain and not well, that is not a good life. I am sad, because I cant spend my time with her anymore. That makes it harder for me.
I am happy that I am still having my family, who cares of me and others and that I have my friends, who is here for me, when I feel sad. I am happy to have those people around me, but it is not the same as to spend time with mother.
We can be angry to our parents, we can be happy, but it does not matter anymore after they have passed away and we cannot say to them, that we are happy, that they are our parents. We should think before for that and not let conflicts to take over the love and cherish that they have been brought us to this life.
